Better BDSM

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You must be living under a rock if you haven’t heard of Fifty Shades of Grey, and I’ve been watching this phenomenon with great interest.  It seems to appeal to a group of women who are perhaps new to erotica, and BDSM in particular. And boy, are they atwitter!

Now I’ve been reading erotica with BDSM elements for a long time, and I’m puzzled by all the buzz. I’m not going criticize the quality of the writing, or the fact that the book originated as fan fic (a lot has been said already on those subjects). What troubles me is how the book treats BDSM as a pathology (it’s suggested the Dominant’s inclinations stem from his abuse as a child). It seems to miss the point that BDSM can be an incredibly erotic, empowering, consensual part of a relationship. It’s something that some women enjoy and, I suspect, many fantasize about. You can be a feminist and still enjoy a little spanking, really!

One of our recent Carina Press titles treats this subject in a very healthy, sexy way: Jodie Griffin’s Forbidden Fantasies. The heroine is a married woman who can’t stop thinking about the hot new world she’s recently discovered in the pages of erotic romance novels. When she musters up the courage to share her fantasies with her husband, she’s pleasantly surprised by his reaction. This is a book that manages to be hot and sweet at the same time, and in no way offends the feminist in me.

If you’re looking for more “better BDSM” may I also suggest these titles:

A Shot in the Dark by Christine d’Abo

Sapphire by Jeffe Kennedy

Touch Me by Callie Croix

Enjoy. That’s an order!

Do you read BDSM? Please share your favorite titles in the comments.

Curious? Explore Harlequin’s  “Curious Reader’s Guide to Erotic Romance”

8 thoughts on “Better BDSM”

  1. Thanks for the shout-out, Julie! I enjoyed Jodie’s book, too. Sounds like I need to get after Callie’s and Christine’s also!

  2. Hugs!! That you for the shout out, Julie. There is a lot of amazing BDSM romances out there. I’m thrilled people are starting to become more aware.

  3. Have to agree with you. lol

  4. Lisa B says:

    I have read and reviewed Jodie’s book and it’s great. Little different as in it’s married couple which is pretty cook for all us married people. lol If you’ve never read a book with erotica or BDSM this is definitely a good place to start.

    Lisa B

  5. HostyPenn says:

    I don’t read BDSM, but every time I saw something about Shades of Grey I thought to myself, “Surely we have better BDSM books!”

    Maybe I’ll try this subgenre by reading Jodie’s book. :-)

    Penn

  6. Wow, thanks so much, Julie! I’ve read Jeffe’s and Christine’s and they’re great examples, too. I’d also suggest Abby Wood’s Consent to the Cowboy — another great read!

    And thanks, Julie, Jeffe and Lisa. I’m so glad you enjoyed Forbidden Fantasies! Penn, you’ll have to let me know what you think if you do read it! ;-)

  7. J.L. Hilton says:

    I don’t read BDSM novels, but I did enjoy the movies “Secretary” and “Exit to Eden.” (The first was more serious and psychological, the latter comedic.) “Secretary” led me to read more about real-life BDSM, and I wouldn’t call it a pathological, either. It can be taken to extremes and interfere with one’s ability to function — but that’s true of ANYTHING in life. I don’t see it being any different from other fantasy, role playing, or fetishes — some people like cowboys, others like vampires. Some people like feet. Some like black leather and vinyl.

  8. Your mode of describing the whole thing in this piece of writing is really fastidious, all be capable of simply be aware of it, Thanks a lot.

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